Here is guidance from Ellen White's writings on how to find a spouse to marry:
- Carefully consider every sentiment and watch every development of character in the person you are thinking of marrying. Every step toward marriage should be characterized by modesty, simplicity, sincerity, and a sincere desire to please and honor God. (
MH 359.1)
- Seek the counsel of older and more experienced persons. The subject of marriage should be carefully considered, and divine guidance should be sought in prayer. The Bible should be your counselor before taking a step that binds two people together for life. (
PP 175.4;
CE 228.3)
- Work on your own character and habits before considering marriage. Defects in character should be overcome, and habits of industry and useful labor should be cultivated. This preparation will help you be ready for the responsibilities of marriage. (
3T 336.2)
In summary: Seek God's guidance, counsel with experienced people, carefully observe character, and prepare yourself personally before seeking a spouse.
References:
- White, E. G. (1905). The Ministry of Healing, p. 359.1.
- White, E. G. (1890). Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 175.4.
- White, E. G. (1923). Christian Education, p. 228.3.
- White, E. G. (1875). Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 3, p. 336.2.