"There is no greater curse upon households than to allow the youth to have their own way. When parents regard every wish of their children and indulge them in what they know is not for their good, the children soon lose all respect for their parents, all regard for the authority of God or man, and are led captive at the will of Satan. The influence of an ill-regulated family is widespread and disastrous to all society. It accumulates in a tide of evil that affects families, communities, and governments. PP 579.1"
"The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."
The EGW passage directly addresses the principle of parental control and the consequences of unchecked freedom in youth, mirroring the proverb's warning about a child 'left to himself' bringing shame.
"those appointed as teachers of the people. When these fail to control their own households, they are, by their wrong example, misleading many. Their guilt is as much greater than that of others as their position is more responsible. PP 579.2"
"One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;"
Both passages emphasize the importance of leaders, particularly religious leaders, managing their households well. The EGW passage expands on the negative impact of a leader's poor example, directly relating it to the biblical principle.
"The promise had been made that the house of Aaron should walk before God forever; but this promise had been made on condition that they should devote themselves to the work of the sanctuary with singleness of heart and honor God in all their ways, not serving self nor following their own perverse inclinations. Eli and his sons had been tested, and the Lord had found them wholly unworthy of the exalted position of priests in His service. And God declared, “Be it far from Me.” He could not accomplish the good that He had meant to do them, because they failed to do their part. PP 579.3"
"Wherefore the Lord God of Israel saith, I said indeed that thy house, and the house of thy father, should walk before me for ever: but now the Lord saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed."
The EGW passage directly references and interprets 1 Samuel 2:30, including the quote 'Be it far from Me,' and applies it to the situation of Eli and his sons. It's a clear and direct allusion.