"You let feelings bear sway. You think it beneath your dignity, Brother C, to manifest love, to speak kindly and affectionately. All these tender words, you think, savor of softness and weakness, and are unnecessary. But in their place come fretful words, words of discord, strife, and censure. Do you account these as manly and noble? as an exhibition of the sterner virtues of your sex? However you may consider them, God looks upon them with displeasure and marks them in His book. Angels flee from the dwelling where words of discord are exchanged, where gratitude is almost a stranger to the heart, and censure leaps like black balls to the lips, spotting the garments, defiling the Christian character. 1T 695.2"
"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers."
Both passages discuss the importance of wholesome and edifying speech, and the avoidance of corrupt communication.
"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,"
The EGW passage contrasts Brother C's behavior with the qualities of love described in 1 Corinthians 13:4, highlighting the principle of kindness and patience.