Ellen White offers clear counsel for those seeking to leave a relationship based on sexual passion or an inappropriate "sex lover" relationship: 1. Flee from Impure Relationships: She urges you to immediately turn away from anyone who leads you into sexual sin or impure relationships. Even entertaining impure suggestions can harm your soul (5T 146.3). 2. Seek Spiritual Strength and Avoid Hindrances: Relationships with those who are "lovers of pleasure more than lovers of God" will draw your thoughts away from Christ and hinder your spiritual growth (5T 363.1). 3. Abstain from All Appearance of Evil: Avoid any familiarity or closeness with the opposite sex that could appear inappropriate or lead to temptation (2T 248.1). 4. Set Boundaries and Avoid Temptation: It is much easier to prevent a problem than to fix it later. Avoid situations where temptation could arise (HL 218.4). 5. Seek God’s Help and Counsel: Bring your struggles to God in prayer. He can provide pure and comforting guidance (SA 156.1). 6. Value Self-Control and Purity: Practice self-control and do not give in to lustful passions, as these destroy true love and spiritual vitality (2T 476.3; SA 175.1). Summary of Steps: - Recognize the relationship is spiritually and morally harmful. - Set clear boundaries and avoid all situations that could lead to temptation. - Seek spiritual support and pray for strength to break free. - Avoid confidences and emotional intimacy with anyone other than your spouse. - Remember your body and mind belong to God, and you are called to purity. - If married, focus your affection and attention on your spouse alone. If you have a specific situation or need more targeted guidance, please let me know and I can share more from Ellen White's writings. References: - White, E. G. (1882). Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 5, p. 146, 363. - White, E. G. (1870). Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 2, p. 248, 476. - White, E. G. (1890). The Sanctified Life, p. 156, 175. - White, E. G. (1897). Healthful Living, p. 218.