"You have peculiar views in regard to managing your family. You exercise an independent, arbitrary power which permits no liberty of will around you. You think yourself sufficient to be head in your family, and feel that your head is sufficient to move every member, as a machine is moved in the hands of the workmen. You dictate and assume authority. This displeases Heaven and grieves the pitying angels. You have conducted yourself in your family as though you alone were capable of self-government. It has offended you that your wife should venture to oppose your opinion or question your decisions. 2T 253.2"
"Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God."
The EGW passage describes a person who does not allow others to express their will or opinions, which directly contradicts the principle of 'submitting yourselves one to another' found in Ephesians 5:21. The EGW passage highlights the negative consequences of not practicing mutual submission, while the Bible verse encourages it.
"Neither as being lords over God’s heritage, but being ensamples to the flock."
The EGW passage describes a person exercising arbitrary power and being a 'lord' over their family. 1 Peter 5:3 warns against being 'lords over God's heritage.' The connection is that both passages address the misuse of authority and the importance of leading by example rather than through domination.
"After much long-suffering on her part, and patient waiting upon your whims, she has rebelled against unjust authority, and has become nervous and distracted, and shown contempt for your course. You have made the most of these manifestations on her part, and have charged her with sin and being led by the spirit of the devil, when you were the one at fault. You drove her almost to desperation, and afterward taunted her with it. How easy it would have been for you to have made her life cheerful and pleasant. But it has been the opposite of this. 2T 253.3"
"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them."
The EGW passage directly addresses the husband's bitterness and lack of love towards his wife, mirroring the principle in Colossians 3:19. The EGW passage provides a specific example of how a husband can be 'bitter' against his wife.