"Brother E, your set positions and your strong, determined will to carry out your points at all hazards were felt and deplored by your wife, and her health suffered in consequence. You were not gentle and tender to this sensitive child of God; your strong spirit overbore her more gentle disposition. She grieved over many things. You could have made her life happier had you tried; but you sought to have her see things as you saw them, and, instead of trying to assimilate yourself to her refined temperament, you tried to mold her to your coarser nature and your extreme ideas. She was warped in her nature and could not act out herself. She withered like a plant transplanted to an uncongenial soil. 3T 463.1"
"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."
The EGW passage provides a specific example of failing to dwell with one's wife 'according to knowledge' and failing to give her honor, as described in 1 Peter 3:7. The passage highlights the husband's insensitivity and attempts to dominate his wife, which directly violates the biblical instruction.
"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."
The EGW passage illustrates the negative consequences of trying to mold others to one's own pattern instead of allowing oneself to be transformed. This aligns with the principle in Romans 12:2, which calls for transformation by the renewing of the mind rather than conformity to the world.
"You should not seek to mold minds and characters after your pattern, but should allow your own character to be molded after the divine Pattern. If this world were composed of men like yourself in character and temperament, woe would be to it. As like would meet like whichever way you might turn, you would be disgusted with your associates, the exact patterns of yourself, and would wish to be out of the world. 3T 463.2"
"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."
This is a strong connection. The EGW passage directly echoes the principle of Romans 12:2, urging the individual to allow their own character to be molded after the divine pattern rather than seeking to conform others to their own flawed pattern. The warning about the consequences of a world filled with people like the individual reinforces the need for transformation.