"While very sensitive to the least blame in regard to their own course, many are too severe in dealing with those whom they suppose to be in error. No one was ever reclaimed from a wrong position by censure and reproach; but many are thus driven further from the right path and led to harden their hearts against conviction. A spirit of kindness, a courteous, forbearing deportment may save the erring and hide a multitude of sins. PP 519.5 The wisdom displayed by the Reubenites and their companions is worthy of imitation. While honestly seeking to promote the cause of true religion, they were misjudged and severely censured; yet they manifested no resentment. They listened with courtesy and patience to the charges of their brethren before attempting to make their defense, and then fully explained their motives and showed their innocence. Thus the difficulty which had threatened such serious consequences was amicably settled. PP 520.1"
"Judge not, that ye be not judged."
The EGW passage discusses the importance of avoiding harsh judgment and practicing kindness, which aligns with the central theme of Matthew 7:1. While not a direct quote, the principle is clearly present and amplified in the EGW passage.
"Even under false accusation those who are in the right can afford to be calm and considerate. God is acquainted with all that is misunderstood and misinterpreted by men, and we can safely leave our case in His hands. He will as surely vindicate the cause of those who put their trust in Him as He searched out the guilt of Achan. Those who are actuated by the spirit of Christ will possess that charity which suffers long and is kind. PP 520.2"
"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,"
The EGW passage directly quotes and applies the phrase 'charity suffers long and is kind' from 1 Corinthians 13:4, making it a clear explicit allusion.
It is the will of God that union and brotherly love should exist among His people. The prayer of Christ just before His crucifixion was that His disciples might be one as He is one with the Father, that the world might believe that God had sent Him. This most touching and wonderful prayer reaches down the ages, even to our day; for His words were, “Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on Me through their word.” John 17:20 . While we are not to sacrifice one principle of truth, it should be our constant aim to reach this state of unity. This is the evidence of our discipleship. Said Jesus, “By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples, if ye have love one to another.” John 13:35 . The apostle Peter exhorts the church, “Be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another; love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye shoul…
"Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word;"
EGW directly quotes John 17:20.
"By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another."
Ellen White directly references John 13:35 in this passage.
"That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me."
EGW alludes to the prayer for unity in John 17:21, specifically mentioning the desire for believers to be one as the Father and Son are one, so that the world may believe.