If you want to pursue a lady, the first thing you should do is carefully consider your own character and intentions, as well as the character of the lady. Here are some key points from the available sources:
1. Seek God’s Guidance: Approach the matter prayerfully, asking for wisdom and guidance from God. Your motives should be pure and your actions guided by Christian principles.
2. Examine Character: Look for a lady who is fitted to bear her share of life's burdens, whose influence will ennoble and refine you, and who will make you happy in her love. Likewise, you should possess pure, manly traits of character, be diligent, aspiring, honest, and love and fear God (
MH 359.3,
LYL 24.2, CCh 113).
3. Maintain Self-Control and Respect: Be self-possessed, courteous, and respectful. Avoid flirtation or superficial advances. Your approach should be dignified and sincere, not driven by infatuation or impulse (
5T 109.1,
4T 433.1).
4. Seek Counsel: It is wise to seek counsel from trusted, mature Christians or family members before proceeding further (
11MR 31.3).
5. Avoid Impropriety: Conduct yourself in a way that is above reproach, avoiding any appearance of evil or impropriety in your interactions (
21MR 96.7).
In summary, the first step is to prayerfully examine your own motives and character, seek God’s guidance, and ensure that your approach is respectful, sincere, and in harmony with Christian principles.
Confidence score: 90%
References:
- White, E. G. (1905). The Ministry of Healing, p. 359.3.
- White, E. G. (1952). Letters to Young Lovers, p. 24.2.
- White, E. G. (1957). Counsels for the Church, p. 113.
- White, E. G. (1882). Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 5, p. 109.1.
- White, E. G. (1880). Testimonies for the Church, Vol. 4, p. 433.1.
- White, E. G. (1990). Manuscript Releases, Vol. 11, p. 31.3.
- White, E. G. (1993). Manuscript Releases, Vol. 21, p. 96.7.